This page is another one that
will mean alot to me to be able to do. Each page that I do becomes
more closer to my heart than the last one, it seems. When I began
to play around with my new pc in Aug, 2001,
I really only went
and visited many hurting people on a large support group that
Heather belong to for Amber Linn. She wanted Leon and I to join
as Surviving Grandparents.
So we did. Then I, for some odd
reason just started going and taking down names of the ones on the
guestbook, that sounded like they really needed a friend, just like
I did.
Donna and Ken Stoner from Everett,Wa. I thought oh my
goodness, that is where Amber Linn died. So I decided to take a
chance and write to them and see if they needed to talk via
e-mails. They had lost their only child by a bad tragedy
also.
Donna did write back and we did send an e-mail once in
awhile. And usually, only a sentence or so. lol Well then I became
interested in trying to learn to work on a web site. I would write
and ask Donna a question about different things, and she was always
so polite. But not a big talker and not one to write a long message.
lol But she did write a sentence or sometimes maybe even two. lol
This went on for several months. Then in Nov, 2001. Whew!!!
I hit the jackpot! Donna began to write and from that time on we
became good friends. She also would write to Heather and make
Heather laugh alot and me too!
We have always had so much respect
for Donna. She was always so nice and pleasent in her
e-mails. Always sending nice poems and pretty cards and pages to
share with us. Then it was time for the holidays. I got a e-mail
from Donna and we began to share some of how we were feeling about
being alone for the holidays. They were feeling down and so were
we.
This I think is what really made us so much closer. I wanted
to jump in the car and head for the Stoner home so that we could be
together so bad. My heart broke so much for them, and mine was
already so empty and broken. It just isn't the same when you have
lost a child or grandchild. Also this was the very first
Christmas in my 58yrs without any parent at all.
Donna knew
that I was in a webring and was in need of some gifts for
Christmas, and here came a couple of gifts with my name on them. I
was so happy. One day I ask her if Ken ever got upset about her
being on the pc all of the time. She said oh, no he just comes in and
ask me how things are going. Then Donna tells him all that she
did that day on the pc and he smiles.
Donna has been one of
the best friends to encourage me, and says that she believes in me,
and she will say you can do it, I know you can. And yes I have done
alot. It does mean so much to have good friends that will encourge
you through your daily work on making all of your web site.
If
I am looking for a certain type of background, yep, write Donna she
will find it, and she does too. Through so much pain and hurt and grief
over their precious son Jesse, Donna still is here for me and
Heather. One day she sent me an e-mail to check out a page she had
done on herself.
Did we know about Donna going through cancer,
NO! She had not told us about it and I was in shock. She is one of
the most uplifing ladies that I have come across yet on the
web. She is always helping someone. What a sweet and precious friend
that you are to me Donna.
I will not find a sweeter or better
friend to me. Oh, yes I still have many more close and very good
friends too! And so does Donna! But here I thought she was so quite and
shy, lol that she would not ever really get that close to us. Well
that has all changed.
Donna has turned out to be my good
friend, that I know I can fully depend on. She is one that I can
send a page too, and she will write me back and write down my
spelling mistakes, lol and that is so good of her. Now what kind of
a friend would you let do that and not get hurt? Not many. But
Donna is so different.
Donna does it in a loving and kind
way. Donna and I can share our hurts, our smiles, and if I get down
I know that here will come something to make me laugh. One day
right before Christmas, I get an e-mail along with some of Donna's
other friends and the subject is "Here is your real Christmas Present"
Boy I opened that e-mail so fast, lol Oh my goodness, out came all
of these little mice running across my screen, and I almost had
heart failure right then and there. lol
My shy little friend,
to whom I can always depend on, lol was laughing her head
off, several hundreds of miles away. This is true friendship.
This is someone that hurts on a daily basis too! And Ken has
been so good with us too. Sometimes he has ask Donna what is going
to be for dinner, Donna says well let me ask my Secretary. lol Ken
has to be a great man for this.
Donna and I have gone from saying
not alot, to telling each other what we are having for dinner.
lol So like I said from another very hard and hurtful tragedy,
we have another couple that are good friends. Did we meet by
chance, no way! God put us together for a special reason. Donna and
I do alot of talking about God.
That is so special and good for
both of us. God doesn't make mistakes. God does make Special
Friendships! I am in hopes that maybe one day we can meet in
person. That would be a very good treat for us! Donna has made a
very good and wonderful web site in memory of their precious son
Jesse that was murdered along with his best friend
Jason.
Donna has also added some stories about her battle with
breast cancer. She has been through so much and especially since May
of 2000. But even though, through the loss of their only child,
Donna has given her heart and alot of time now, to other
children.
Donna is now one of the sweet angels that makes "Smile
Quilts" for sick children. You are truely a wonderful person Donna
to do all of this for other hurting parents. Thank you Lord for my
wonderful friend Donna! I have learned something new this past
week. Sometimes the friends that start slow turn out to be the ones
that are the true and honest friends that will remain with you for
a lifetime.
I will always be here for you Donna. And I do know
now that you will be here for me too, and for Heather as you are
both Mommy's that know true heartache. Ken you as a Daddy, a true
and real Daddy who knows real pain and heartache, love to you too!
Love and alot of Hugs too you both! ~~~~CJ~~~~
Ken and
Donna
Please
click on the banners and you will see the wonderful site that Donna
has made for all of their family! We all need to stand together,
and support each other! Thank you
